Being Single Isn’t So Bad

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This is going to be a strange post coming from me, but I still want to write it. I saw this the other day while scrolling through my Facebook and I thought it was funny and sounded like my sense of humor about being single for so damn long! As I was thinking about how I used to ignore almost every chain letter that popped into my inbox of my phone, I started to think about how much I don’t care about being single anymore. Like seriously! I’ve been thinking about how my life has been going lately, although there a few things that need to be changed around, getting married and having kids in my early 20’s isn’t a necessity like I wanted it to be a few years ago. To me, this is a HUGE turnaround since I’ve been wanting these things since I was about fourteen years old!

I was trying to figure out what changed my mind. What is there now that wasn’t there before? So I started thinking about my priorities and I’ve been noticing how much I’ve been really enjoying my life as a blogger now. I have tons of ideas in my head of what I want to do in the near future, like becoming a YouTuber and working with brands and to me having these projects if I had kids would hold me back from doing them. I’ve been watching the SacconeJolys for the last few months and I’ve been asking myself would I be able to blog, do a video, and be a mother all the while with a disability on top of that? I know it’s not impossible, but I feel like I’d still want to blog and/or make a video to make sure people still know I’m still out here. I watch Anna’s videos and I know they have a nanny, but I can’ let somebody take care of my kids while I write a post or record a haul of sorts. I’m NOT condemning them, I mean that’s what works for them! It’s just there are certain things that I’m not willing to give up to do the other.

My friend and I were having a similar conversation the other day. She is a couple of years younger than I am, but she has a three year old daughter. She recently got out of a relationship with her boyfriend like four months ago. She was having a bad day and was confused about to do about him. She isn’t sure if she wanted to be with him or leave that chapter alone. I was really honest with her, I think she should be single for a while. She can focus on her schooling because she goes to college and takes care of her daughter, there’s nothing there to redirect her attention elsewhere. I felt she needs to be thinking more about these two for the time being than getting into another relationship that may or may not work out this time. She also has issues with her parents liking him too, her dad doesn’t want her to do anything with him or she’s out, so I said that if her father was serious about that then she’d have to move out of her family home, find another place to rent, get a job and I think she’d have too many things taking her interest away from wanting to go to school and she’d give it up.

Being single isn’t so bad. I don’t understand why I was so bent out of shape in high school. It might have something to do with the fact that all of my friends had boyfriends and I didn’t. Majority of all my friends are engaged, married, and/or have kids. Surprisingly I’m not jealous about it anymore. I still love being around babies, toddlers and older kids but I never thought I’d be happy they’re not mine! What’s also interesting to me that my views on marriage in general have changed too. I don’t want to get married, I don’t see the point of having somebody give you a ring and only having a certificate as the way to know you’re really committed to one another. If you’ve been dating for YEARS and have kids, why ruin things just because it’s tradition? I mean, you’ve already fucked up when you had kids and now you want to put a ring on it? It just seems silly to me!

I’m single but not ready to mingle or have any mini mes yet!

Still Obsessed With Names

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Everybody knows I’m obsessed with names. I’ve changed my future kids’ names about 20 times in the last five years. Which is scary if you really think about it for a second. I know I’ve discussed this about a hundred times, but lately I’ve been trying to separate the types of names into two different lists. From possible future names for my kids and for my possible stories for my characters. I don’t like too futuristic names for both parts, but I like names that have some real meaning to them. Each name that I have on these two spots are from names I’ve found on movies, TV shows, and from my Pinterest. I give a lot of credit to Pinterest for the overload of my favorite names. So forgive me there!

The name Rogue is just a name that I kind of fell in love with when I first got into the X-Men movies. In the comics and movies, her original name is “Marie” and she is played by Anna Paquin. The second name Leah is a family name, I have a great-aunt “Elsaleah” and my mom’s middle name is “Leah.” I’ve always wanted to find a way to use it in some form, and I would like to use it with another name on this list. Brynn is a name I found when I was a freshman, but the girl who inspired it, her name was “Bryna” and I like both ways and they both go with the middle name I have for both which is “Danielle.” Freya is a name that I got from the TV show Witches Of East End, the character is played by Jenna Dewan-Tatum. I find it to be very Earthy, the name means “a noble woman” and I like to use it with the name “Christine.” The next name is from another TV show and ironically enough another witch, Davina is from The Originals and she is played by Danielle Campbell. The name means “little deer” which I think is cute and it’s different and should be easy to spell and pronounce. Clementine is my second longest name and I say “second” because the other was first. I found this name a few years ago and I’ve always liked it for some reason. These next two  names were always favorites of mine. Ava is adorable and I think I like it because it reminds of the actress Ava Gardener. Mae is another one of my family names. My nana and sister have it as a middle name. My little cousin has it as well, but she has it spelled with a “y” instead. I would love to use it as a middle name for maybe for “Davina” or as a first name for this next name.

Alexandra was my first long name I liked. I would love to use it as a middle name with “Mae” because I could have my parents’ first names initials. The next name is Nina and yes, I did choose it because of the actress Nina Dobrev. My sister also had a friend with this name and I always admired her from afar and I loved her name so much that she’s the reason why I love it so much! Brielle is just one of those beautiful and unique names that only fits with the name “Mary” trust me I’ve tried every name I could think of and I think it’s cute and girly together! This name is apparently not as popular with people anymore. I love the name Navaeh a lot! It’s “heaven” spelled backwards and I just love it and I’m sorry, it’s better than “Nova.” I love this next name and I would love to use it as a second middle name with “Leah” and it means “daydream” so it fits well with me very well. It is Reverie. I have always liked the name Hayden, mostly because of the actress Hayden Panettiere. I used to want to put it together with the name “Avril” but thankfully somebody talked me out of it. This next name is actually “new” to my list and it’s Genevieve and I think it feels like another Earthy name. I got this from another witch off of The Originals, played by Elyse Levesque. The last name on the girls list is Kate. It’s short and simple and yes, Princess Kate is the reason why I love it so much!

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This next list of names was much more difficult for me, because I like simple but strong names for boys. I want my future son(s) to feel confident within their name (as the girls too) but have some sort of unique and class to them too! The first name is a name I found when I was looking up medieval names, this was the first name that popped up. Audric has three different origins, French, English, and German. I think it’s a cute “A” name and it’s strong as well, plus it works with “Morgan” as a middle name too. The next name is Otto and there’s a Dutch band called Delain that I love and their bassist has the same name. The meaning is “wealthy” and it says it’s Swedish, American, and German. Everybody knows about Mason. At least this one it’s in with every boy name list I have so that’s a good thing! The name Charles is from another name from the X-Men comics and movies. Patrick Stewart plays Professor X. I have thought about combining both “Erik” and “Charles” for a first and middle name, but I don’t really like that spelling of “Erik.” I might use the name “Ian” instead since Ian McKellan plays “Magneto” in the movies anyway.

Noah and Wyatt are just a short, sweet, and simple names that I’ve always liked. Dante is the only “D” name that I like and trust me it’s only one that works with “Morgan” too. Elijah, well he is another character off of The Originals, he is an original vampire played by Daniel Gillies. This next name Lachlan, I found a few months ago, and I think it’s pretty cute and different. Aiden is a cute “A” name that I’ve always liked but everybody uses it. Tyler is another very common name that I’ve always liked and even though if I was to really name my future son then everybody, mostly my sister, would give me a funny look and ask the “why” question. It’s not a family name, but the name is very known in my family. The last one is Johan. I think it’s another unique and it’s a Swedish, German, Finnish, Hebrew, and American name. I like it and I would use it in the way like my Papaw’s mother used his name. She used her maiden name as his middle name,  so I would use my mom’s maiden’s name as his middle name. Just to kind of keep a tradition in a sense and surprising both names work well together.